Myth buster: Amicable divorce is only possible if we agree on everything

So many of my clients believe that they can't go down the route of amicable divorce because their soon-to-be-ex and themselves can't agree on everything.

That is not what amicable divorce is all about. Every divorce involves some degree of conflict as you are dividing assets and time with your children. What matters is how you choose to resolve disputes. When couples decide to have an "amicable divorce", it means that they are both committing to keeping the divorce out of court. They are agreeing to find a resolution and an arrangement without the intervention of a judge. There are many ways to get support with this sometimes challenging undertaking: you can use a Certified Divorce Coach, a Family Mediator, collaborative lawyers or simply work it out yourselves. The reality is, you likely will have many other decisions to make together post divorce, especially if you have children together, so learning how to sort it out without litigation will be a long term investment either way.

By both committing to keeping your divorce out of court, you are ensuring that you will find a way to reach acceptable arrangements for everyone involved, using negotiation and open communication. And that, is the real definition of "amicable divorce". 

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