My ex moved in with his new girlfriend before the divorce was finalised!

Article published on the Divorce Support Help website in May 2024

You may have agreed, or even initiated, the divorce, but how can it not sting when your ex moves on faster than you? No matter what residual feelings you may have for him, it will always be difficult to come to terms with him meeting someone new. If he goes as far as to move in with her or have a new baby before the divorce is even finalised, it can be downright horrible.

As humans, we are naturally programmed to compete to survive. It is no surprise, therefore, that we all have tendency to compare our own post-separation progress with that of our ex. It can be very tempting to check their social media profile or to try to gather information about them from joint friends or from your children. But the reality is that your ex’s ability to move on has nothing to do with your own. Importantly as well, remember that he will also be feeling sensitive about this point and might be putting on a bit of a show to demonstrate that he is over you.

Either way, people are often at a loss when it comes to dealing with open signs of their ex moving on faster, such as them moving in with their new partner. The first and foremost priority, if you have children, is to manage the messaging to them. The introduction of a new person soon after the separation can be very difficult for them to understand. Many children harbour a hope that their parents will get back together at some point and might only fully process the impact of the separation once a new person enters the picture.

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